Think for a second about the guys you dated. I know, mostly affairs you don’t want to remember. But what you’ll come to realize is that regardless of their actual profession (if they had one, that is), they would be so much better in other fields.

For example, I am sure you’ve met The Actor. Very talented guy, puts on impressive shows. For a moment there you actually believe everything he says is true. The stories seem so real, the interpretation so authentic. He deserves a round of applause for making you think you are the one in this perfect romantic scenario. In reality, nothing is further from the truth and that is just a role he plays. You (hopefully) wake up from this make-believe, distinguish fact from fiction and move on.

That’s when you meet The Politician. Smart guy. Presentable. Has his way with words. He tells you he likes to communicate, talks about transparency. You are finally happy you found someone who understands the importance of  good communication in a successful relationship. Then if you are smart you discover what he is all about,  how he manipulates the conversation and turns it in his advantage, how he tackles only subjects he feels he is in control of, how he avoids delicate questions and gives evasive answers. As I said, he would make a fine politician. But having this type of communication…you’re better off without it. It would only make you feel like you’re talking in vain and remain with all your questions unanswered. And besides, if he can’t be straight forward and opened about the things you ask him to, that should leave you a big question mark regarding the reason he avoids the truth.

You might have also come upon the IRS Agent. Not much to say about this one except that he takes a part of your revenue as if it’s his rightful claim. You start giving money, again and again until you get fed up and one day you decide you won’t open the door the next time he rings.

So you decide to try it out with someone different. How does a Rock Star sound? Great, huh? Hmm… not really! Yes, he is cool, looks hot, everyone is drawn to him like he’s some kind of magnet. But could you really stand someone that cocky, who acts like he’s above you and who’s ego takes all the room leaving you with 0?  Are you willing to always give in and ready for all the groupies around the corner?

You then go out with The Poet. Seems to nice to be true, he turns you into his muse, treats you like a princes, romantic is his middle name, his words are pure honey. He makes plans and the future sounds so good you could cry.Plans, after plans, after plans. Until you realize fantasying is the thing he does best. You discover he is too naive and sensitive, you want him more realistic and down to earth. Sure you like the romance and love to be treated like that but let’s face it, too much of anything will make you sick,  you can’t eat only honey, you must have some first course, second course, some good solid food that will make you appreciate the desert more.

The list can continue with the assistant, always ready to take orders, always your decision, the sales man, the detective, oh, and you don’t want to meet the boxer. You probably dated some, most certainly will cross roads with others. The question you have to ask yourself is: what do you want him to be, now, that he’s grown up?